This was a podcast that was recommended to me by a friend of a friend that I didn’t know yet, but I knew the guy was a podcast listener. Something I’ve recently noticed about podcast listeners: they’re my favorite people. There’s a quality about them that I can’t instantly attribute to podcasts, but I always like them pretty quickly, I assume because they listen to likable people talk for several hours a week. Anyway, about the podcast: I’m glad it was recommended to me, and I’d be glad to recommend it to others, because Duncan seems especially good at reaching a great point of advice or wisdom from the guest every episode. Plus he interviewed Pendleton Ward and Jesse Alarcon, creators of Adventure Time. It’s all good!
Anyway, I guess the main point of Duncan’s show, and ultimately every podcast and piece of media I consume, is to provide an alternative to focusing on all the negative aspects of our lives and being miserable. The way he did this on the episode with Pendleton and Jesse was highlighting the fact that there’s nothing more precious and valuable than the time we spend alone doing anything we want to do, and the idea that we need constant romantic companionship might actually be as destructive as not. Duncan iterated that from the three girls he’s lived with, he doesn’t recommend it to others unless there’s plans to have kids.
Why did this three minutes of a podcast get to me? Probably because this entire year has revolved around potential girl partners that fell through. Am I surrendering to a bitter college-type “relationships are dumb and I’m now asexual out of spite” resolution to this? Kind of. This particular podcast was one of a number of things that happened on Friday that pushed me in the direction of not caring as much about that whole side of life, and I feel like I’ve been happier for it.
I’ve complained recently about life becoming some weird meat market where living and enjoying the moment has been hampered by my new sense of perception where I can see myself and others all doing this stupid thing. This weekend, that didn’t happen. I didn’t see it; I wasn’t trying to see it. I hope I can continue not seeing it, because it’s been nice. Also, I don’t have time for girls right now. Yeah, that excuse. Of course there’s never any time, and no time is ever great for anything, and of course I’ll take opportunities as I see them, but what I mean is that I can’t focus on that stuff anymore. I’m in debt, but I just met my boss about a raise at work, and my bands are starting to do well, and I’d really love to focus on all of that stuff instead of some weird lifelong lottery that assumes we’ll somehow find a partner forever and ever. Does that sound right? It’s been right for me recently. Hopefully that keeps up.